While the campaign was going to start with going to parliament to yell at Justin Trudeau, Sandy found out that parliament was out of session, so she’s starting with an “email blitz”. They’ve compiled over a thousand emails apparently which they plan to send the same letter to every individual on that list. She wants 10,000 people to send it (it started with 1,000, but Sandy suffers delusions of grandeur). Over all this time she’s been promoting it I’ve seen about 20 active responders.
Do you want to know what people do when they get mass emails? They click the little boxy thing on the right, and they delete all of them, and mark them all as spam. Therefore they won’t get any of your other emails for your other planned email blitz’s because they’ll go to their spam folder immediately. I don’t know if you expect these people to spend all day when they get back from vacation on January 8 reading your form emails (one for men and one for women), but they’re not going to do it.
The next issue I think is wrong with this campaign is the letters themselves. If you look they directly contradict each other. I am going to type both out and bold the parts that directly contradict each other. I’m also likely going to add some of my snarky commentary, so when you see something underlined, the words immediately after that is my commentary and not in the letter.
This email comes to you on behalf of a growing group of concerned citizens of Canada. This group consists of parents, step-parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles and friends; Maybe but her active supporters are all mothers, with one grandmother. all who have a shared interest in the safety and welfare of our children. We are hoping to bring your attention to a problem that is on going; the Family Courts system and how it is failing our children every day. You failed your children. Stop blaming your behaviour on everyone else.
The Family Courts have failed our children through drawn out custody proceedings by lawyers who do not have the best interest of the children, (you asked for a delay and were denied). Parent alienation by unequal child access orders, you mean what you were offered, but you refused? Unfair support payments that bankrupt the paying parent and false accusations that never get proven in the courts. Oh. I forgot. She’s writing this from the father’s point of view. I’m sure that she knows all this because she’s the one that dragged him through this. Forget my snark, I’ll assume she’s talking about the victimization her ex dealt with through her actions and that this letter is just an admission on that account. The failing of the Family Court system hasn’t gone unnoticed by the government of Manitoba as the Premier Brian Pallister stated “governments have a lot of responsibilities but there is no responsibility greater than the obligation we have to care for our children”. Justice Minister Heather Stefanson said in a news release “The system can often be adversarial and irreparably damaging to families, the experience can be especially harmful for young children. Our government is prepared to make changes to the current model, which will greatly improve fairness and well-being for Manitobans who interact with the family law system”.
In light of the Christmas day tragedy in Oak Bay, British Columbia our message to be heard has become even more urgent. Two little girls lost their life and a father was driven to attempt suicide after being failed by the family court. This failure is a direct result of lawyers creating a “heated custody battle”, allegations of abuse and systematic
This case shows the importance of the need for change within the family court. Judges need to have specific training areas to notice the red flags that occur in many of these cases. When evidence of abuse goes unnoticed or ignored the ramifications can be fatal. Even in cases that are not fatal the stress placed upon children can be debilitating.
In March 2017 a British Columbia man took his own life after the British Columbia Supreme Court ordered him to pay $8,000 in support payments In his suicide note he stated “he wrote: “FAMILY LAW NEEDS REFORM. I recommend mandated lower costs and less reward for false claims of abuse. Parental Alienation is devastating. I loved my children as much as a husband and father could. I see no light. Recommend; an authority consistend during high conflict separations: It is exploited in family law.” In 2000, Daren White, formally of Prince George, B.C. took his own life when he was ordered to pay his ex-wife $2,071 while netting less than $1,000 per month.
We want the governments of each provinces and territory to adopt these fundamental standards in regards to child welfare upon the breakdown of a relationship. The children’s right and best interests are to be considered first and foremost.
- Unbiased legal representation for the children
- Upon the breakdown of the relationship a 50/50 standard custody agreement is to be put in place unless abuse or neglect is proven without a reasonable doubt;
- Child support payments are to be clearly defined and not to be manipulated by the lawyers and the courts;
- Mediation must be used as a first line of parental agreements and
- Courts must follow the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child, specifically Article 3 & 9.
In Canada Child Protection agencies have been and is out of control for far to many years. Manitoba has over 11,000 kids in care alone. This staggering number is unconstitutional and never seems to decrease.
Our collective experiences with the Family Courts in Canada the following has become the normal:
- Lawyers create a culture of hatred between the parents of the children for their own financial gain;
- Judges ignoring claims of abuse by parents and children.
- Children who disclose abuse are being forced to return to their abusers custody by court orders.
- The judges are untrained in domestic abuse, child abuse and sexual abuse and this renders them incapable of executing their judicial role;
- Fathers have to fight to have for the right to have an invested say in their children’s lives and when they are awarded they have to pay ridiculous amounts of support payments.
- The number of suicides by fathers who have been denied access to their children is growing.
We need changes to this system and bring the child’s interests is first and foremost to ensure their safety. Too many times the legal battles put families into debt, destroys relationships between child and parent. This needless battle can be stopped when lawyers are not allowed to create a climate of hatred.
You are receiving this email as everyone who sends it has in some way or another lost out on the life of a child or had their charter of rights and freedom violated by the government through the family court.
It is time for the government to take back the family courts from the lawyers who have used it for their own financial gain.”
I decided to wait till the end. First off, I am surprised that Sandy could write that letter without laughing. She could have had shared custody, she could have asked for a children’s lawyer. She chose not to. Her choices do not make the need for a family court reform. She talks about parental alienation being so awful. But on her Punished page, she talks about how accusing someone of parental alienation is a hate crime. She really can’t figure out where she wants to go with this. She just wants all the support and doesn’t really have a stance. Also, her court decisions talked about the best interests of the children at length. She’s just salty that she doesn’t have custody because of her actions.
The fact that she brings up how they kill themselves because of extreme support while asking for 60% more than the highest guideline of spousal is ridiculous as well.
Also, 11,000 kids in foster care in Manitoba. That number hasn’t changed much. Guess what. Kids are apprehended from bad homes, some parents get their kids returned. So the number hasn’t changed much because some kids are returned back to their mother’s or father’s care.
The grammar on this letter is also so terribly atrocious. I haven’t actually read the mother’s letter but I will shortly, but either way, Sandy needs to go back to work so she remains intelligent I think because it was painful as hell to type that verbatim.
This email comes to you on behalf of a growing group of thousands upon thousands of parents and extended family members who are abused victims of family court and all who have a shared interest in the safety and welfare of our children.
The Christmas Day Tragedy in Oak Bay, British Columbia, where two young girls aged 4 and 6 were murdered by their custodial father highlights the grave consequences of ignoring protective parent’s concerns. Though the mother raised evidence of abuse in the Oak Bay case, the judge dismissed her evidence and concerns in the interest of providing the father custodial time. Tragically this family court decision resulted in the children’s deaths.
Sadly, this case is not an anomaly. All across Canada protective parents are being ignored, threatened and even jailed and their children are being placed in unsafe homes. While not every case that ignores child abuse ends with the death of a child it doesn’t mean these children do not suffer. The Adverse Childhood Experiences studies clearly demonstrate that exposure to high conflict and domestic abuse is child abuse and has both short and long term consequences for children.
Family courts in Canada are routinely failing to protect children and failing to provide support for their protective parents when abuse is disclosed and reported to the court, especially sexual abuse. When children disclose abuse they are disbelieved and forced into unsupervised contact with and or custody of their abuser., credible evidence is ignored, and the protective parent is often falsely accused of one or more of the following things: mental illness, inability to “get along” or “co-parent” with the abuser, attempting to alienate the children from the other parent, coaching and/or lying. Family court judges all over our nation are ordering thousands upon thousands of children into unsupervised visitation and custody with suspected and known abusers.
This is a complete betrayal of their trust and a violation of their civil rights guaranteed to them by our Constitution. And Protective parents are punished for reporting abuse and trying to protect their children. Their punishment is greatly reduced and/or supervised time with their children, imprisonment, fines, or the very worst punishment of all – a complete severing of the parent-child relationship as per order of the court.
Our nation’s children are our future and every level of government should be very concerned about this crisis. Those who suffer because of the family court and family services industry are crying out for help, but their cries are falling on deliberately deafened ears. The very system that that been put in place to help children and their families(s) re-victimizes and re-traumatizes them again and again and there is little to no oversight – no real accountability for their actions. Families are literally at the mercy of the system and there is rarely any mercy to be found. No reasonable person would ever expect a good parent to hand their child over to the one who abused them, yet family court judges regularly order good, protective parents to do that all across our nation with the threat of losing custody and/or jail time looming large over their heads if they don’t comply. And Child Protection is either neglecting to protect abused children or they are removing children from good, safe homes and needlessly placing them in foster care and adopting them out. The system is beyond broken. Children and families are being grievously harmed and torn apart. One time is too many! One child is too many! One family is too many!
Most reports of child sexual abuse are not properly investigated and rarely is the perpetrator brought to justice and given real consequences for committing such a heinous crime. The judicial system has a clear disregard and lack of understanding of sexual abuse of a minor even though statistics tell us that less than 2% of sexual abuse allegations made by a child are false. Children in Canada have a right to safety yet they are continually denied this right.
Judges are not taking domestic violence, coercive control, and child abuse into consideration as they are required to by law when making decisions for custody and visitation. Family courts and Child Protection agencies do not properly investigate allegations of abuse, the result is that children are (often by force) put into unsafe and abusive situations. Protective parents are being slandered and maligned by judges, attorneys, and court appointed “experts” if they disagree with harmful court decisions and when they attempt to protect their children from abuse. Protective Parents are falsely accused of parental alienation, lying, controlling and manipulative behaviour, coaching their children, and having a mental illness. This is done to discredit them and silence them.
Child Protection agencies are fraught with problems as well. Child protection case workers are often not properly trained and are not licensed social worker. This is an enormous problem as those unqualified individuals are making life-altering, life and death decisions for children who are at risk, and they are getting it wrong far too often. Many case workers do not properly investigate allegations of abuse, falsify records, omit information, and outright lie in order to shirk their responsibilities in real cases of abuse or to remove children from safe homes based on false allegations. Large case loads and low pay are often cited as the reason for these problems, but there is no acceptable excuse for ignoring abuse and endangering children or kidnapping children under color of law.
In Canada Child Protection agencies have been and is out of control for far to many years. There are over 50,000 kids in care in Canada every year, a number that is staggering and detrimental to the society. Manitoba alone has over 10,000 kids in care. This staggering number is unconstitutional and never seems to decrease.
Child “protection” has become more of a business than a public service as the agencies receives funding from the government when they remove children from their home and place them in foster care. They receive money when those children are adopted out, as well. It is a lucrative incentivized business. This is nothing more than glorified child trafficking. These injustices must stop!
Our nation’s children are our future and every level of government should be very concerned about this crisis. Those who suffer because of the family court and family services industry are crying out for help, but their cries are falling on deliberately deafened ears. The very system that has been put in place to help children and their families(s) re-victimizes and re-traumatizes them again and again and there is little to no oversight- no real accountability for their actions. Families are literally at the mercy of the system and there is rarely any mercy to be found.
Our collective experiences with the Family Courts in Canada the following has become the normal:
- Lawyers create a culture of hatred between the parents of the children for their own financial gain.
- Judges ignoring claims of abuse by parents and children and accusing the parent of parental alienation allowing the abuser to gain full custody of the children.
- Children who disclose abuse are being forced to their abusers’ custody by court orders.
- The judges are untrained in domestic abuse, child abuse and sexual abuse and this renders them incapable of executing their judicial role.
- Child Protective agencies are apprehending and keeping children at an alarming rate.
- Sexual or physical abuse disclosures from children and adults go unpunished. The police and child protection agencies rule them unsubstantiated and close the file.
- Child Protection agencies continue to place children into homes where abuse has been disclosed instead of revoking the foster home’s license.
- Child Protection agencies have lost the ability to protect children.
We need changes to this system to bring the child’s interests first and foremost to ensure their safety. Too many times the legal battles put families into debt, destroys relationships between child and parent. This needless battle can be stopped when lawyers are not allowed to create a climate of hatred. Protective parents have nowhere to go for help when the system fails and harms their innocent vulnerable children. Hence the reason for this email. Every person who sent this to you has been harmed by the system….
I’m going to stop here. Because there’s some religious bullshit after that I don’t need to type. Religion does not belong in Family Court. Bahahaha.
First I’m going to point out the differences between the 2 letters:
- The second one is marginally better written.
- The second one is twice as long. It’s obvious that it was Sandy’s baby.
- The first one had footnotes, but the second one had no information about where Sandy pulled these statistics from. I’m pretty sure they were pulled out of her asshole and she decided they sounded good.
- You cannot use the same brand new case and imagine you know what both parents are thinking. Stop. Just stop with that. That doesn’t make you an advocate. It makes you a bitch.
- Is it over 10,000 kids in care in Manitoba or over 11,000
Now for the huge problems with this letter. I’m not correcting her grammar or spelling because those aren’t the big problems. She’s drafted this letter to help her fight. Being that she maintains her innocence and that she was wrongfully persecuted.
- Thousands of thousands of parents are abused victims of family court.
Maybe if they didn’t behave badly they wouldn’t feel abused by Family Court.
- protective parents are being ignored, threatened and even jailed.
No. Emotionally abusive parents are.
- High conflict and domestic abuse is child abuse and has both short and long term consequences for the children.
I agree with this. So if you believe this Sandy, why did you make your custody battle so high conflict. It was all you.
- Family Courts are failing to provide support for their protective parents when abuse is disclosed and reported to the court.
You have been proven a liar. Stop. Just stop. This is why you’re going to lose your rights altogether.
- Family court judges regularly order good protective parents to do that all across the nation (give them to an abuser) with the threat of losing custody and/or jail time looming large over their heads if they don’t comply.
This is for unproven allegations.
- Most reports of child sexual abuse are not properly investigated and rarely is the perpetrator brought to justice.
In your case, your children’s 6 allegations against dad, and anyone that stepped in YOUR path, were investigated for months and deemed unsubstantiated. In a 4-6 month investigation for each of the allegations what did they do wrong in your opinion?
- Child protection case workers are often not properly trained and are not licensed social workers.
All child protection case workers have to have a degree in social work.
- While the number of children in care never seems to decrease, it also never seems to increase. Which means that many kids go home to their parents. Look Sandy, your son did.
- You repeated a whole paragraph. No one in the government is going to read almost 2,000 words in the first place, let alone if you repeat yourself.
Next I will move on to the Court of Appeal Decision that was decided in December. I know I’m going backwards, but I wanted to have this ready for today.